Cyber affair wrecked my marriage

Husband of 11 years leaves wife for a younger woman he met on the internet.

Following her devastating experience, she has decided to share her story with others online as a warning to others.

"Although we had been living together just over eleven years, my husband has gone and found a new woman on the Internet.  I say he found her on the Internet, because it was actually a national paper forum that happened to be online."

She discovered his cyber affair just after Christmas when she couldn't understand why he was staying up until the early hours of the morning on his laptop.  After deciding one night to take a look in the forum to see what was so fascinating she soon discovered the shocking truth.  Not only was he communicating with this woman, who by the way was 22 years his junior, he was also 'tarting' with other women.

"After sending this woman a personal message on the forum to informed her that it was my husband she was communicating with.She replied that she didn't know he was married."

It wasn't just the chat, they were leaving soppy music links on the forum for each other as well.  His mobile phone was stuck to his hand as if it was glued there ("yet another clue I should have picked up on!").

After confronting her husband and telling him that the affair had to end, he admitted what he was doing was out of order and that he would stop.  He has even told her he loves her on this forum. After finding a piece of paper with an email address and password that wasnt his usual email address, she logged on to see. Low and behold, there was only one contact - she decided that enough was enough and gave him a choice between his marriage or his online affair.

"He made no effort to save our marriage, didn't apologise for what he had done and of course he did not stop.  Well that was it of course, end of marriage.  So basically he has given up a relationship of over eleven years for a woman he has not even met yet!"

Just five hours after being told the marriage was over and that they would have to sell their home, he was on his mobile for over an hour and half discussing with this woman their next move.

"It seems she is going to move over 800 miles to be with him, and THEY HAVEN'T EVEN MET!! How can she trust him when he has told so many lies..."

When he finally told the truth, after so many lies, he admitted that it had been going on since September and he thought his wife would never find out.  He also told the online woman at one point that him and his wife had separated.

"I think they are both deluded.  How can she trust him, when he has told so many lies to me and her? I have been in complete turmoil because I was so devastated.  I have cried for England, have been through the 'fog' and have now at least come out the other side.  I am now looking forward to the house being sold so I can move on and get on with my life.  SHE IS WELCOME TO HIM"

source: weeklygripe.co.uk